If You Feel Like Things Are Falling Apart, They Are Probably Actually Coming Together
Struggling with change? Here is an excerpt from the Tama Kieves book ‘Thriving Through Uncertainty’ that can help you see the bigger picture.
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Most of us don’t relish change—and we’d rather remain stuck inside a cocoon than fly like a butterfly. This excerpt by Tama Kieves, from her recent book Thriving Through Uncertainty: Moving Beyond Fear of the Unknown and Making Change Work for You, is meant to help you see that another world is available to you. All you have to do is let go:
There is no other world.
We have all sung this dirge in one form or another. There is no love for me outside this loveless marriage. There is no money for me beyond this draining career. There is no way to have things fall together now, because if they were supposed to come together they would have; I must be riding on a rickshaw while everyone else caught the plane.
It takes enormous courage to believe that things can be different. Or that there is a life beyond what you can see or even imagine—or a you—that is whole and inspired.
“There is no other world,” says your fear. And to this I say, with great deference to your pain: Poppycock (whatever that actually means). Change is always what’s for dinner.
Buddha said that all suffering stems from trying to hold on to your chocolate mousse. Well, he didn’t say that. He said we try to make things permanent. But the nature of reality is fluid.
Real life cracks open, breathes, disintegrates, and expands. It always expands, even when we feel like things are stuck or going in the wrong direction.